We all have ups and downs in life. Times where things are going great and we feel like we can take on the world, and times that are tough and we feel like things are impossible to overcome. It would be great if there was an easy button to get us through the tough times in life, but since we all know that there is no such thing as an easy button here are ten tips to getting through the rough spots in life.
This is most often easier said than done but it is very important because there is power in positive thinking. A positive attitude will not only help you make it through those tough times in your life, but staying positive while navigating through rough waters will help you become a better person in the long run.
Staying positive will help you see that there is a light at the end of the tunnel, and no it’s not a freight train! If you stay positive it helps you know that this struggle too shall pass and that you can come out as a victor and not just a victim of life’s circumstances.
Having a positive attitude doesn’t mean that you will never have a bad day, it will just make it easier to pick up the pieces and start moving forward through life again.
COUNT YOUR BLESSINGS
When you find yourself going through tough times it is easy to get stuck in a negative rut. This is when you need to count your blessings and take inventory of the good things you have going for you in your life. Sit down and write down all that you are grateful for, all the good in your life. This helps you see that this tough time will soon work itself out and it is not the end of the world like it seems. When you can see all of the good going on in your life written down, it is not quite so hard to get through the tough situation you are facing at the moment in your life.
FOCUS ON THINGS UNDER YOUR CONTROL
Stay focused on the things going on in your life that you have control over instead of all the things you don’t. There will be things that come up that no matter what you do it won’t make a difference because you have no control over it.
When you find yourself struggling through tough times it helps to sit down and make a list of the things in your life that you have control over and focus on those things, if you can’t put something on your list as being under your control then let it go.
GIVE YOURSELF MORE CREDIT
Sometimes we focus so much on the road ahead of us that we forget to remember the roads we have already traveled.
When you are struggling sit down and make a list of all of your accomplishments and it can be a boost to your confidence to see all of your achievements listed in front of you. Doing this allows you to shift your focus off of what you feel are your failures and shortcomings and focus on the positive of all you have accomplished in life and of all you have already overcome.
Give yourself a break by realizing all you have already done and all you have already been through in your life and come out on top of the situation. Seeing all of your achievements in life listed in front of you is a helpful reminder that you have come this far through so much and even though times are tough at the moment, this too shall pass and you have already come so far and you still have many roads in life yet to travel.
BUILD UP YOUR SUPPORT
Having the right people around you for support is also very important. You should have people in your life for support who are loving, caring, honest, and available.
You need caring people around you for support because your support system of people needs to care about your well-being as much as you do. Loving people in your life is important also because even the darkest of days are easier to get through when you are shown love and feel loved. When you feel loved and cared for it gives you extra strength to keep your chin up and see the light in your life.
You want the people who are your support to be honest because sometimes you need someone to look you in the eye and tell you the truth about your situation and how it is. Sometimes that straight forward honesty is what you need to put things in perspective and get you past what may otherwise seem like an impossible situation.
Making sure your support team is available is important too. You need to know that when you call them or need them that they will actually be there for you. Many people have good intentions but you need someone who is actually going to be there for you and not just say they will and then never are.
Having people around you for support who can understand what you are going through, or who can relate to what is going on in your life is helpful because then you can find out how they made it through the situation and then when possible take that knowledge and apply it to your own life. This will give you yet another tool to use when you are faced with the many bumps in the road we must overcome in life.
Sometimes we find ourselves in bad situations that are caused by other people’s actions. When faced with situations like this it is easy to let ourselves become angry and resentful towards those people. Instead of focusing on those negative thoughts and feelings you may have towards them, forgive them. Forgive them not because they are sorry or deserve it, forgive them because it is better for you own peace of mind and well-being. When you forgive them it allows you to accept what has happened, let it go, and move forward in your life. Forgiveness allows you to take the focus off of the negativity of the situation so you can learn what you may from it and then move on with your life.
Also remember that no one is harder on us than ourselves. Learn to forgive yourself from the mistakes you make in life, learn from your mistakes, let them go, and move on in life. Learn to forgive yourself even when you are the reason for your current tough situation, don’t be so hard on yourself. We are only human, we are going to make mistakes. Acknowledge your mistake, forgive yourself, learn from it what you may and then move forward from it.
ACKNOWLEDGE AND FEEL
When you are going through tough times don’t ignore and avoid your negative emotions. When we ignore and avoid our negative emotions they get bottled up and we keep them bottled up until that bottle is so full of negative emotions that the cork pops and they come flying out in a flood of overwhelming negative emotions that run out of control.
Instead of bottling them up, face your emotions and let yourself work through each negative emotion you are feeling. Acknowledge your emotions, allow yourself to work through each feeling, and then accept that these are all part of our journey through life and that it is okay to have emotions of all kinds.
As with our emotions, bottling up things in our life that we are struggling through has a way of blowing up on us. Bottling our problems up often has a way of making those problems grow bigger in our worries and anxieties.
Instead talk about your troubles with others so you can get positive feedback and another persons view on things. This will give you a fresh perspective on things and a better understanding of your fears about your situation.
TRY TO SEE THE UPSIDE
When you are going through a crisis it is often hard to see the upside of your life. This is why it is important to stop, take a step back, take a deep breath, and give yourself a little distance from the situation. This allows you to see things in a different light and helps you to remember that this too shall pass. Remember all you have already overcome in your life and this will remind you that soon you will once again be back on your feet and moving forward in your journey through life.
TAKE CARE OF YOU
Many times during a crisis we often forget a key step in getting us through the tough times ahead of us, and that is we forget to take care of ourselves. If we don’t take care of ourselves and make sure that we are well then we are no help to anyone else. During times of crisis we often forget even the simplest of self-care basics such as eating and sleeping.
When faced with the trying times of crisis you can do a few simple things to care for yourself so that you can be there for others. Carry healthy snacks with you to help balance out missed meals. Going for even just a 10-15 minute walk will relieve built up physical tension and help clear your mind. Meditation or even a 20 minute power nap can help to rest and reboot you mind and body when you are lacking in the sleep department or just need to regroup and reboot.
Working through a crisis or a tough situation will be easier to do when you remember to take care of yourself. Life’s problems have a way of working themselves out and everything in life will once again be okay but if you are not taking care of yourself then you will have a harder time remembering this and seeing that the light at the end of the tunnel is anything more than a freight train.